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Objectified

Objectified (2009) IMDB rating: 7.40 Plot: A feature-length documentary about our complex relationship with manufactured objects and, by extension, the people who design them.

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Actors: Bangle Chris,Blauvelt Andrew,Bouroullec Erwan,Bouroullec Ronan,Dunne Anthony,Formosa Dan,Fukasawa Naoto,Ive Jonathan,Newson Marc,Rams Dieter,Rashid Karim,Stowell Davin,Documentary,

How do you forgive a husband that deceived, manipulated, objectified and abused his wife.?

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you don’t forgive an @ss like that, you make his life as miserable as you can

blueberry | May 30, 2009

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You forgive him when you pat him in the face with a shovel.
Ms. GTO | May 30, 2009

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You don’t? At least I wouldn’t.
Kristiane-Cubical ninja | May 30, 2009

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after all that… easy you dont! dont go back to him
cdngirl4evr | May 30, 2009

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To be truthfully honest- I don’t think you can! That is one of the worst husband’s I have ever heard in my life!
Ant C | May 30, 2009

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to each his own but i;d never forgive him cause if he has a chance he;ll do it over and over again.
daisymayNY | May 30, 2009

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you dont
vibratingchocolatelove | May 30, 2009

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You don’t. Why the hell WOULD you?
I hope you divorced him!
mrs_G | May 30, 2009

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as a woman you have no business to forgive him. Only he has the power to forgive you. Of he has abused you its clear you must have cheated on him or yo uwouldnot have served him properly. So you are justified in being abused. Say sorry to him and treat him properly and give him the repect all men crave and then see how your marriage improves. You rotten women…the only thing yo uknow is to pick up fights, divorce and then claim huge money from men.You are all swines
nate | May 30, 2009

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It would probably be best if you think about getting a divorce. If you have children in the marriage, it is still a better option to get a divorce because; why would you want to expose your children to a broken marriage? It could very damaging to their self-esteem and cause other problems in their adult life if they witness abuse. If you don’t have children, then you really should consider breaking up and end the abuse right now! There are too many good men with careers and living the single life searching for sould mates. Why continue living a bad life with a bad husband?
L.C. | May 30, 2009

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I forgave my husband the first time he abused me and i wish i had not. Please move on, leave him and start living again. You deserve happiness in your life.
holistic | May 30, 2009

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Once you hit abused, he lost his right for forgiveness. A man or women who thinks it’s OK to abuse their spouse doesn’t deserve squat!
Gina | May 30, 2009

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You don’t. You give him some of his own medicine. You treat him like the scum he is. Talking to him would be to nice, forgiving him wow that will take a miracle.
Memory | May 30, 2009

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I honestly think that the issue isn’t whether or not he’s the one forgiven…but if you can forgive yourself for allowing it or even considering "forgiving" such treatment

Is your husband sorry? Has he been in therapy? Has he done the work to sincerely change this behavior? Is he making a deal that if you just stay with him he will change?

because I’m telling you that once an abuser always an abuser UNLESS they get extensive therapy, are you really at a place within yourself to so willingly give him forgiveness without being prepared for the "next time" he lays hands on you…it’s up to YOU to decide how the people in your life will treat you, if you want to do the "Christian" thing and forgive him of his sins against you that is your prerogative but will it be at your own cost?

I personally will never forgive my ex for the years of abuse because he’s not sorry, it is more important for me to forgive MYSELF for staying as long as I did…for allowing his mistreatment of me and to also applaud myself for finally getting out, alive and happier than ever
whtchutalkinaboutwillis? | May 30, 2009

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Well, First of all, know that forgiveness is for you, not for him. He probably doesn’t care if you forgive him, or doesn’t even think he needs it. But YOU need it. You don’t have to trust him, again, or like him, but forgiveness makes healing possible. My first husband’s first wife told me that, and I thought she was nuts, but she turned out to be right–it was when I forgave him that I got on my life.

I have come to see forgiveness as the gift we give ourselves, bc wefeel so much better when we forgive then when we harbor anger and hurt.

Some things that might help:
I think that feeling a little sorry for him helps you forgive him. He’s not a mentally healthy guy–not even close to it. He’s never going to have a happy, healthy relationship with a woman. My first husband is married to his fifth wife, and he’s had another live-in and another fiance. He’s probably not happy yet.. It’s sad, really…
Two, ask God to help you forgive. He will, as His gift to you. It won’t be a "BANG"-thing, but you’ll find people and epiphanies etc to help you on your journey to forgiveness.
Three, ask folks to pray for you. You can call a church annonymously, even. Or a christian radio station.
Four, counseling is seldom a bad idea…
Five, get on with your life–get on with the business of getting past him. Avoid giving him your time. Don’t dwell on the bad–when you feel down on him, or angry, try recalling a positive in your life, something that is good for you. (Like, your dog, or your garden, or your supportive family, or strangers on Yahoo Answers that care about you!)
Good luck, and I will say a prayer for you!
buffalo alice | May 30, 2009

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ANSWER: You don’t…..never spend another second of your life with that bastard. You deserve better. No one should have to deal with that kind of relationship….savy hon!
BlueEyedLovely.1 | May 31, 2009